The Real Reasons Why Men Pull Away and What to Do About It
One of the most common questions asked by women is why men pull away in a relationship. This usually happens after a man steadily pursues a woman for a while then just when the woman finally gives in, the man starts pulling away.
Now, before we go more into the why this happens, let’s first look at the most critical part of this question – what to do and what not to do when this does happen.
What to Do When He Does Pull Away
If you are close to breaking up or have already broken up then your next move will be absolutely crucial. Your actions at this point will either push him further away or start pulling him back, but be careful – the things that will pull him back is often the exact opposite of what you might think.
If you are in this situation then the best thing you can do is to go through TDub Jackson’s The Magic of Making Up to learn what to do and what not to do, etc. If you really want your man back then this guide is an absolute must.
If your man is the kind of guy that responds well to texts, then you should definitely take a look at Michael Fiore’s Text His Attention Back program, which will teach you all the secrets you need to know about how to get him back by sending him the right texts at the right time.
If you are in a new relationship and he has started pulling away then read on for some more in-depth information.
Why Do Men Pull Away?
Psychologists and magazines often say that the reason why men pull away is because they are either afraid of commitment or simply losing interest in the relationship, but the fact is that men rarely pull away for those reasons.
According to acclaimed author and relationship expert T Dub Jackson, men pull away for 4 distinct reasons, which he calls the 4 Masculine Hero Avatar Principles or 4 MHAP for short. In his free video (wich you can watch via the link below), T Dub also describes what he calls a “Magic Traffic Signal” that a woman can use to see deeply inside their man and always know what he is feeling.
The 4 MHAP principle will give you a much better understanding of why men pull away and perhaps more importantly, it will help you to avoid overcompensating and pushing your man even further away. Could it be that what men really want is just the thrill of the chase and nothing more? What causes this sudden change in an otherwise good flowing relationship that makes men back out so quickly? Why has he decided to leave just when things start getting serious?
Conventional Explanations and Myths
He’s just not that into you
An argument arises which seeks to support the claim that a man pulls away because he doesn’t feel the same way. It is a definite possibility that women are too blinded by emotions to see the signs of a failing relationship. Men are at fault too for stringing the women along for so long but if the relationship signs are there then amicably ending it would be the best course of action. Men actively pull away from such relationships from the basic fear that they’re getting into something which does not interest them. The distraught woman is often left asking “why?”
To get out of a controlling relationship
Sometimes it’s not the man’s fault at all. Women tend to think that things are supposed to happen at specific predetermined intervals. Nothing could be further from the truth. Often thinking that, since you’re together for a considerable amount of time, you should move to the next level in your relationship. This raises millions of red flags in the man’s head as he feels like he’s being forced into it. Subsequent pulling out is the only viable way out as the relationship is deemed to have run its course.
Holding on to his freedom
This is a straight forward train of thought, some men just don’t consider being tied down as an option. When a relationship gets too serious, they will always find a way to wriggle themselves out. This could be because they are not ready for any type of long term commitment but in most cases it’s a freedom issue.
This belief that getting into a committed relationship marks the end of their freedom deters men from getting into any long term relationships. To ensure that they don’t have to explain the reason behind their actions, most men will simply cut all communication ties.
Another argument to this dilemma is that men are drawn to sex just as women are drawn to emotional well-being. It is believed that a man’s urge is simply fuelled by the physical while a woman’s is fuelled by the emotional aspects. At the phase when it’s just sex then the man is happy. The unfortunate thing for women in this case is that men know what every woman wants to hear in order to “give it up.” The ability men have that allows them to stay firmly rooted in a dead end relationship is truly amazing. Just as long as they keep getting what they want, they will say just about anything. The problem comes when the woman starts to feel something for the man. Guys consider this the worst possible scenario and the only way out is to pull the plug on the whole thing. With this knowledge, it is probably best for women to hold out on some favors until they find that elusive “Mr. Right”.
Being rushed throws men off
Men like keeping their options open and there is no way they can let themselves be rushed into any situation. If it so happens that the partner that they are with is moving at a higher pace, it calls for some immediate adjustments. Women need to understand that timing is everything to a man in a relationship. Pulling away will sometimes mean that they want to evaluate the relationship. Most times however, it marks the end of an otherwise steady going relationship.
The regrettable thing about all these reasons why men pull away is quite synonymous. They all leave the poor woman with hard to answer questions of where it all went wrong. Exercising caution is the best way to safeguard the soul from any disappointments.